Sometimes those “off topic” posts are where I learn the most.
Some of them have made me examine beliefs and attitudes I had that were holding me back.
If it’s not something that interests me I just skip it.
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Can we stick to topics that we came that we came to this forum in the first place?
by James Jack ini don’t care about politics, books you are reading, movies and tv programs you’re watching, etc..
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Havent gone to the kingdom hall in ten years but may have to go back...
by Joliette inmade a big mistake of talking about being raised as a jehovah's witness to some old friends and family.
people have told me that i am still a jws even though i've never been baptized.
i'm in school for social services, dealing with student loan debt, and a lot of other debt.
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One thing that leaving the JWs taught me is that I have to be able to take care of myself. I am female as well.
When I left I was completely alone and cut off from family and friends. I had bad things happen and had to deal with them on my own. (Car accident, injuries, other health issues) There were no safety nets, no home to run to. I did it, I learned, I survived, and then thrived.
The witnesses don’t care for their own unless they get something in return. Create your own safety net, learn to rely on yourself. Looking for a man, a religion, or a parent as a safety net is leaving your security in someone else’s hands........ I’ll never do that again.
The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, the 2nd best time is now.
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I’ve won two all inclusive trips - both were so much fun.
I have a side business consulting and had an event I had to work at a resort/casino for a weekend. The travel was paid for as part of the contract and I got paid my consulting fee, but I won $2500 too so it was a profitable weekend.
Another time I won two slot jackpots in an hour one for $750 and one for $500.
I won a $1k prize at work. A $1200 slot jackpot at the Vegas airport.More concert tickets than I can count. One year I won tickets to every concert at a particular venue for the whole year.
Lots of other things - my friends tease me about having a “lucky life”.
I get to a casino a couple times a year and look forward to the fun.
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Havent gone to the kingdom hall in ten years but may have to go back...
by Joliette inmade a big mistake of talking about being raised as a jehovah's witness to some old friends and family.
people have told me that i am still a jws even though i've never been baptized.
i'm in school for social services, dealing with student loan debt, and a lot of other debt.
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You always have choices. You do not need to go back to the Witnesses. If you want to - that is your choice.
You can go to school to get a new career, you can meet new people by volunteering in your community, you can learn new things about planning for retirement and budgeting. All of it takes effort and you have to want to do them.
In reading your post it seems you feel like you are missing something in your life and you think the Witnesses are going to fill that void. In my experience looking for someone else to fill a void doesn’t work.
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If The Jehovah's Witnesses Stole Your Past...Don't Let Them Steal Your Future!
by The Bethelite inyes, many here have lost many years of life due to being infected by this cult like religion.
for many it is very hard to let go of that life and those wasted years.. of course people need time to heal and this web site is a great place to do that, swap war stories and commiserate.. i was in for over 50 years.
so of course it will be with me for the rest of my life.
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Everyday I get to choose:
To be happy
to eat healthy
to exercise
to love my husband
to love my job
to enjoy my life
to not let the JWs have any influence in my life even though I still have family in
Sometimes I forget that all of those things are choices I make, instead of letting outside conditions make those choices for me.
That’s how I have dealt with leaving the JWs - I get to choose everything and will never give that up to any person or organization.
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I have a deep seated hatred for the leadership of the JW Cult
by mrquik ini look back on my life & realize all major mistakes fall at the feet of the jw leadership.
no college, no birthdays, basically no celebrations.
lived my younger years as an outcast.
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I’ve been out for more than 20 years now. As I head into my fifties the Watchtower organization has zero influence.
I hold my family firmly responsible for their own actions. They choose to listen to nonsense spewed by idiots. They choose to shun their children/grandchildren. They choose to do the hateful awful things they do. No one is making them do any of it, they choose it, and could choose differently if they wanted to.
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I have a deep seated hatred for the leadership of the JW Cult
by mrquik ini look back on my life & realize all major mistakes fall at the feet of the jw leadership.
no college, no birthdays, basically no celebrations.
lived my younger years as an outcast.
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DOC - that was me too - I was mad at myself for believing and trying to believe for so long.
I left in my 20’s and was able to recover, go to College, have a career, plan a retirement.
I lost my family in the process, but it made me stronger. I knew early on that I could only depend on myself and I needed to do whatever I had to do to succeed because there was no safety net.
I hate that my family believes this nonsense and continues to let other people control them.
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What Will You Be Doing On New Year’s Eve?
by minimus ini can’t remember the last time i stayed in on new year’s eve.
every year we went out and made this date a real party.
it was a celebration that included a night out, a stay in a hotel , eating, drinking and dancing to live music!.
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Dinner reservations at my favorite restaurant with the hubby. Don’t know how he pulled off the reservations but I’m excited to go.
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Smokin' Phizzy !
by Phizzy inas a jw teenager in the 60's i took up smoking.
i gave up in my early 20's when my new wife and i decided , mistakenly, that it was a good idea to " make a proper go of da troof".
in all the intervening decades i still enjoyed the smell of a fine cigar.. when i left and became free, i took up smoking again, always fine cigars, and ended up hooked, and smoking ten or more a day.
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When I first left I tried smoking cigarettes and didn’t like it. I was young and was a “beer girl” at a golf course and also a “chew girl” for smokeless tobacco. A couple of times a year I indulge in smokeless tobacco.
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Will You Take A Covid Vac!
by minimus inyes.
right now i would like to see how good the vaccine really is.
i’ve never taken a flu shot and so far, no flu..
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Yes - I should be able to get it in January.